I had offended a friend.
As we began discussing the situation
I initially tried explaining why I had done what I did
I was in the “wrong” in this particular instance.
once we had established that I would accept responsibility for one wrong
my friend started on a Laundry List of grievances that she had about me.
I defended myself against 2 or 3 more accusations
until I had the sense that my friend would not be satisfied
until I was on my knees groveling for our friendship.
Suddenly it was like something turned over in my brain
and I heard myself saying
“You know, if I thought I was as terrible as you seem to think I am
I wouldn’t have anything to do with me.”
These words surprised me as much as they did my friend.