I had offended a friend.
As we began discussing the situation, I initially tried explaining why I had done what I did (I was in the “wrong” in this particular instance).
Then apparently, once we had established that I would accept responsibility for one wrong, my friend started on a Laundry List of grievances that she had about me.
I defended myself against 2 or 3 more accusations until I had the sense that my friend would not be satisfied until I was on my knees groveling for our friendship.
Suddenly it was like something turned over in my brain and I heard myself saying “You know, if I thought I was as terrible as you seem to think I am, I wouldn’t have anything to do with me.”
These words surprised me as much as they did my friend.