when i want to do something but can’t bring myself to do it, i consciously sit and allow my 2 “sides” to have a conversation. my “i want” side and my “i don’t want” side.
eventually the 2 sides come to an agreement, sometimes a compromise, sometimes a totally different solution. and the good news is the “conversation” takes less time as we go along.
some of the early conversations are actually humorous to remember. for example one time i walked by a sink full of dirty dishes and thought i really should wash those but i didn’t want to. eventually one part of me said “we aren’t going to wash the dishes, we’re only going to stack them”. this involved taking the dishes out of the sink and sorting them into piles – plates, bowls, cutlery etc. then i sat for a while. then the part said “we aren’t going to wash the dishes, we’re only going to put them to soak”. that involved filling the sink with hot soapy water and putting in the dishes. step-by-step until eventually the dishes got washed without my i-don’t-part rebeling.
(in answer to a question of Did you learn how to do it or did you just start to do it intuitively?) i started intuitively or it started intuitively thru me. i have since read of others’ experiences doing parts work but i haven’t taken any courses. my experience was that as i went along i wasn’t always able to differentiate my “parts”. maybe what happened is i got into deeper subjects than washing dishes. when i got into conversations about values or beliefs i sometimes forgot that only a part of me felt that way or believed that, because it sure felt like 100% of me.